For some, looking for love can be an exhausting lifelong adventure. We search for this thing called love starting from a young age while we can’t even put “love” into words. As time passes, some of us search blindly and we end up becoming someone we regret and make mistakes that need repentance. We allow ourselves to be shaped and formed into something, that once our eyes are opened, we struggle to respect ourselves. We give ourselves away physically and emotionally in ways that not only are not love, they don’t even produce love. Spiritual, emotional and sometimes physical hurt comes from these actions.
Hopefully, we don’t spend too long in those desperate days bringing spiritual harm to ourselves before our eyes are opened to what love is not. Unfortunately, a lot of times we must experience what love isn’t so we can see what true love is.
Not only is desperation not attractive, lust is not love. Satan doesn’t want us to know the difference between love and lust. He disguises lust and makes it appear attractive and that is one of his lies.
Lets look at the definitions of both; lust and love:
According to the online Merriam-Webster dictionary the definition of Lust reads:
– Personal inclination
– Usually intense or unbridled sexual desire
– An intense longing
This definition strongly appears to me to be a selfish desire; “personal inclination”. The “intense or unbridled sexual desire” obviously states a sexual urge that is uncontrollable. And an “intense longing” does not necessarily refer to only sexual acts, it could be an intense longing for anything as in covetous; an envy, greed or jealousy. We are surrounded with lust over many things; power, money and sex to name a few. And I think we can all see it in the sexual world today and possibly as the foundation of past failed relationships.
This definition can be summed up quickly: A powerful, uncontrolled sexual desire for individual satisfaction. In other words, lust is a selfish sexual act.
Let’s look at the definition of what most people are searching for; love.
1 Corinthians 13: 4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. NKJV
Amazingly, lust has nothing to do with love. These two definitions are nothing like the other. Yet, we chase love and end up in a mess of lust. Did you see how the definition of lust is full of selfishness but the definition of love indicates “does not seek its own”? Furthermore, the word sex isn’t anywhere to be found in the definition of love. Stunning!!!
I only see Jesus in the definition of love. He is the entire definition of love. He is the love that some of us have searched for in physical relationships only to find ourselves in the pit of lust. We will not find genuine love in the midst of lust.
God did not create us for lust. He created us out of love and saves us from lust with His love. Jesus sacrificed Himself for us, there is no selfishness in this truth. He endured long suffering for every one of us. He is truth and He died to sin for us. So, we don’t have to live in lust. We can have His love.
True love: The One that is true love, truly loves us all. We don’t have to keep searching.