Being single can bring on different challenges that the average married person doesn’t typically face. To some singles, single life concerns consist of:
• Single income.
• Being the only decision maker: buying a house or a car alone.
• Not having anyone to rely on when a car breaks down, etc.
• Sleeping alone.
• Dining alone.
• Weekends alone.
• Not having anyone to attend an event with.
• Not having immediate emotional/spiritual support when tragedy strikes.
Although, some of the examples above have pros to the cons, for the most part these can be major obstacles to some singles.
I’ve had a lot of single friends over the years and have been single myself for many years in the past. As a single, several comments have been said to me and occasionally one would even confuse me. For the most part, I truly enjoyed being single and independent. At the same time, I had some events happen that made me wish I had an immediate support to lean on.
I have heard and read on many blogs, as singles due to divorce or never married, indicating they struggle with a few comments made to them by married people. Although I truly believe most of the comments are made from self reflection and with encouragement. A few comments that can be sensitive or possibly be misunderstood are:
• You will find someone.
• God has someone special waiting for you.
• Being alone is something I could not do.
• The right one will come along.
• I am sorry you are alone.
• You came alone? (As a single shows up to an event alone)
I did not desire to be married during a large portion of my single years. I spent most of the time growing spiritually and enjoyed the time seeing a bright future ahead of me. I had some fears but they didn’t overwhelm me. I did pray for a Christian woman as a prayer partner and the Lord provided. My friend was married and she told me that she prayed for a strong Christian man to come into my life. And he did! She wanted me to be blessed with what God had blessed her with. (That is a true friend) Although, I always told her not to pray for that, as I thought I was quite content at the time (but, I sure am thankful she did). As a single Christian woman, the one thing I wanted more than anything was prayer. And I certainly wasn’t offended when she would pray with me in person for my single walk.
As a Single, what type of support do you want or expect from others during your single walk?
If your single days come to an end, what words will you offer to singles?