I am writing a post that I never thought I would write. I read so many blogs from single Christian women that don’t want to be single. Good Christian woman are asking “where are the good single Christian men? How do I meet them? Are there really any good single Christian men in the world today?” There are so many single Christian women that desire a Christian man in their life and I do not believe there is anything wrong with this desire.
I spent 8 years as a single Christian woman and for the most part, I loved being single. But dating can stink! I got to the point that I didn’t want to date unless I was dating “The” man God had chosen for me. Otherwise, I wanted Him to keep all men away from me. I didn’t even want to give my attention to a man over a cup of coffee!!! Unfortunately, I was highly disappointed and understand a lot of the blogs I read from single Christian women.
But ladies, there are good single Christian men in this world.
During my single days I surrendered areas of my life that I didn’t even know I needed to surrender and a few areas that I fully knew I needed to. I asked God to make the most of my life and use me as He wanted to, even if that meant being alone for the rest of my life. I just wanted to be content where I was and for the most part, I was. I spent more time in God’s Word during this time than I had ever done before. I gave myself away through volunteering and I grew more spiritually than any other time in my life. I do not regret these days!
But, now that God has given me the man that He chose for me. I want to encourage you in your Single Christian Walk and hope in God’s plan for your future.
God has blessed me with:
A Spiritual Leader in my home (I don’t have to be this anymore)
A man that knows his responsibilities as the head of his home
A man that allows God to work through him
A man that ask God to love me through him
A man that respects who I am and knows who I have been
A man that prays with me
A man that prays for me (Before my eyes are open in the morning, I hear my husband lying next to me praying for me – this is another post, more to come on this)
A man that allows me to be the woman God created me to be – he wants the best for me and wants me to miss out on nothing good
A man that protects me
A man that protects our marriage from worldly garbage
A man that I trust
A man that respects himself
A man that tithes
A man that has given a lot more than his shirt off his back to someone in need (I have witnessed this multiple times)
A man that makes mistakes and admits to them and takes responsibility for them
A man that takes his confessions to the Lord and repents
A man that apologizes
A man that holds my hand in public when I am dressed like I have been working in the yard all day – unfortunately, I have pictures to prove this 😊
A man that doesn’t want to be #1 in my life – he wants God to be first in my life
A man that listens to everything I have to say and still holds me tight at night
A man that allows God to show us true intimacy
A man that takes his role as a husband as a privilege
A man that wants to have breakfast with me every morning before work
A man that corrects me when I am wrong (he even puts his hand over my mouth when needed)
A man that forgives me and others and knows what God has forgiven him for
A man that knows what God has saved and redeemed him from
A man that I used to dream of his existence while others told me that my expectations were too high and unrealistic
A man that I asked God to put in my life in His time while He shaped and formed me into the person He wants me to be
A man I waited 47 years for
A man that I have asked God to make me a blessing to
Ladies, don’t allow anyone to discourage your desires to have a strong Christian Husband but don’t let the desire control you. Stay focused on Him, the most important relationship you will ever have and allow His plan to work in your life. He may be developing a strong Christian Husband for you as we now communicate but it will be in His time and rest in His contentment until then. If He doesn’t have this in His plan for you, ask Him to help you be content in Him as a single. He will provide contentment too. Remember, He supplies all our needs.
But! don’t take it in your own hands and don’t ever settle for less than He has planned for you!!! You deserve the best and its worth the wait!!